Question about going dark. For the last couple of weeks h and I have had little contact, mostly about logistics. I am trying to go dark. Yesterday H forwarded me to an email about break-ins in our neighborhood. I didn't respond. I forgot my cell phone at home. Had 2 missed calls and 2 texts from him asking if I got the email. I texted back that I got the email. That was it. I guess that is still going dark? I am not initiating any contact.
I think it's OK to reply. Keep it short, simple, and upbeat. Dont overexplain things. Dont expect a reply.
Also, the info you are pasting into the bottom of your posts - you can go up to my stuff and type that into your signature. Then you dont have to add it every time!
My WAW does the same thing. I'm 180/last resorting and she'll send me out of the blue emails with weather reports. Or car maintenance emails. Honestly, kind of pisses me off. But, yes, if you are not initiating, you're doing great!
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
Good reminder about taking the pressure off. There is so much to do and things are moving very quickly.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Things are moving very fast and I have been in LRT since the day after I found out about A. H acted at first like he didn't know what he wanted but it quickly became evident and he has pulled away very fast. I'm still in shock.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Don't worry about it Becky, God has a plan for you that you cannot even imagine, keep smiling, keep doing your work and the blessings will surely come!
Let GOD fight your battles, hand your husband and your situation over to him, keep doing the work and live YOUR life!
Keeping dark is about no contact except where it's absoulutely necessary and then it's to the point and not posing any questions in other words disconnected. You are doing fine.
You are struggling as you've got your focus on what your H might do or think. Change what you think about to GAL, what you want to do, what you have wanted to do for a while but haven't had the time, what sounds interesting to you, what are your friends up to, what you've enjoyed doing before but lost interest or focus due to your M...the list is endless, go do some of it, any of it, just do it and you'll feel so much better.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
I'm at a baseball game with my sister and family and hating every minute of it. But a least I'm out. I feel very old and very single. Maybe need to stick with less family-oriented things for a while.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
The thing is I have staying very busy. Getting together with friends for dinner or walks, going to church etc. Right now it feels like going through the motions but I know it will get better eventually. VT
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
