I am so sorry to read about your situation. My circumstances are different but the same. I have learned quickly this is a good place to come. We are with you, you are not alone.
I am a father and I do have an opinion about your son's visitation at his fathers apartment. What do you know about this women. She could have a record. She could have a mental disorder. She could be an addict. I am not saying she is, not at all but I would damn sure get her back story before you trust her with the most precious person in your life.
I sometimes feel like I am my wife's doormat and thats my choice. Early on her choices could have spilled over onto my son. I did not hesitate to politely and firmly nip that in the bud.
When I was a child our cat had kittens in our garage. It was a nice summer day and we were looking at the kittens with my friend. His German Shepard, a kind mellow old dog wandered into the garage to be with his master. My cat jumped on his back and was clawing his eyes out as the poor dog ran down the block. I am not saying the OW is bad but who knows. The point is your are the guardian of you dear son and must protect him from the broken ilk of the world. I would be careful to who my child is exposed to. You may not have a lot of power over how he treats you. As your son's mother you have incredible legal and historical power. Mommas are supposed to protect their babies. Be well, be strong.
