My suggestion for your son is to tell him what you already did, but to also add that no matter what happens, he will be ok. That's more important than the "love" piece. That Daddy and Mommy will make sure that he is ok.
If you have been paying for everything, you need to check in with a lawyer about money issues. I think it's way too early to think about separation or divorce if what you want is to save your marriage, but you definitely have to protect yourself financially for your sake and your son's.
If you go back to Cadet's list, there is a thread on boundaries. Reread that. It sounds like he's cake eating. He wants the best of two worlds.
Did you see the phrase about believing nothing he says? He is so hooked on the addiction of the OW that he can't help lying. You need to put all your focus on yourself.
I will continue to pray for you. You've got this. Just keep taking care of yourself.
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M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
