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He's the one that isn't in touch w/ or expresses his emotions. Trust someone who grew up male & in a family where showing emotions was discouraged, we still have them. We just repress them better. Took a lot of work to overcome that training.

On the going away w/ him, in addition to just whether it sounds like fun or not, I'd focus on how you think you will feel about it afterwards regardless of how it goes. Then decide.

If you choose to go, figure out how you are going to enjoy yourself no matter what H does. If you choose no, then we'll want to work through how you tell him in a good DB fashion.