May I ask how you would define the "she'll have to club me like a baby seal" approach?

I agree with your last statement. I don't want to become bitter about anything.

Thanks for the response, AJM.

M: 38 W: 37
T: 20 M: 19
Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12
BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out)
PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM)
Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015