Where am I in relation to your situation? I know you had a rough go but are in a much better place now - thankfully.
Halfway or not even close. Mine started in September 14.
I know I am not supposed to gauge my situation as everyone is different but it gives me an idea.
Thanks - Heavy!!
Heavy ... that latest spew fest, yup ... seemed to me she just needed to be angry and spew at someone, could not show OW that side of herself so it was typically me and every now and then was S. Boundaries here, FIRM Boundaries ... she will learn to respect them and you.
To answer your question. I have read typical (average) MLC is 3-5 years. With a few never really coming out as they are stuck and never work on that issue that has sent them into the tunnels. From what I could tell with mine, what ever happened with W was the 14-15 yr area, OM was absolutely someone FIL would have blown a gasket over if she attempted to date him. I have also read that most LBS become obsessed with where their MLC'r is as far as stages ... thinking .. ok she is in stage 4 only 1-3 more years of this and I am in the clear .... This is not good .. not good for you nor the MLCr, you have to put the focus on YOU .. get out of her head and go about your own life her Heavy. They have to feel you are gone in order to look deeply inward and really decide to do that work .. if you are still on the porch step with open arms there is no reason to change. Set Boundaries.... The boundaries are for you ... for you to form a healthy happy life ... when and if your W comes out, you will be beyond all this, you will be at a place where you truly will have to search your own self and decide IF you want to re-enter into a new M with a very different W ... I assure you she will be different. She might look, talk, sometimes act the same .... but she is going to have a bunch of changed things about her, so it will be a new R regardless.
