Hello, my birthday is the day after yours so happy bday a bit early!
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think IC will be a wonderful tool for you as you move through whatever this next phase is. I can only tell you what has been told to me: try hard not to go on your spouse's emotional roller coaster ride with them. Easier said than done, but in those moments when you can step aside and observe your spouse's behavior, for me anyway I see a person I love who is in a lot of pain that only they can dig their way out of. Once that happens, compassion kicks in, which makes it easier for everyone to heal, I think.

Anyway, that's all I got ... hang in! I know it's hard, but hang in!

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver