My lizard and her tunnel ...

[AJM]

Not sure how helpful it may be, but the earliest I see is http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...235#Post1731235
May have to clean that up a little and cut and paste...

I've been around longer, but may have lost some of that muck in the purges. Just as well in most respects

Being kind to somebody who outwardly hates you? That's an excellent approach. I know for me, I took the "she'll have to club me like a baby seal" approach. I'm extremely glad I did.

There was really nothing she could do to hurt me beyond what she did. I knew that. She wasn't going to take my kids (she wanted to, but not because of the kids; more because it made her fell "right" and to punish me for some reason).

I knew she was in no position to take the house. I knew I could have decimated her in front of her family, co-workers, etc.

I chose not to. I chose instead to repay with kindness. I knew exactly what I was doing when I did that.

I'm happy to say I'm happy I chose that path even though sometimes I didn't want to.

You can become bitter or better from this. Not really any other outcomes that I've seen.

AJ