Confused and Unsure

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You guys are all absolutely right. I have already started consulting with L, I want to understand my vulnerabilities in the situation. I have 2 kids which mean the world to me. I will not jeopardize my ability to provide for them by impoverishing myself for her sake (I may sound harsh, but realistic).

I will definitely be telling her that although I don't want to divorce, if she feels that way I won't stand in her way, but if she wants out, then she will be the one leaving the home.

It is amazing tho, from one day to another, how a person can make a decision not caring about everyone involved. I don't take away her reasons, I know I contributed a lot, but I was giving my best, even when going to MC together.

She is doing great a work, lots of praised, lots of accomplishments, lots of travels, recognitions from others (including men); so she is feeling herself right now. Mentioned how "I am being valued in every other aspect of my life, I started thinking I should deserve that in my relationship." I agree with her, but thought I was doing just that. I support her every move.

Anyway, I appreciate all of your advice guys, this helps me tremendously. I am the type of person, who don't take disrespect for too long, so I go back and forth on cutting off the relationship and taking the lost (I don't really want this.)