I keep saying we need to start from here, not stay stuck in the past. But I know he needs to see it, not just hear it.
He's the one who keeps coming to me with this stuff - I don't pursue it. But I do answer him, mostly to validate, but sometimes to keep communications open. That's what he always comes back to: communication and me trying to manipulate or set the direction for the comms. I think I've been somewhat consistent. The only thing that has softened is my physical affection...
Just had another thought... my GAL includes chatting w/friends. That's made him rather nervous (questions, irritation when I get a text, etc.) Maybe that's part of what makes him feel manipulated.
Remind me - your focus is where?
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
