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{ I would go away with him but I give in way too easily. If you do go away, would you have a good time? Or will you feel stressed and like it is too much too soon?}

I guess that is my concern.. I don't want it t be awkward or a setback. I’m the worrier he’s the non emotional one of course.. so to him he’s not concerned probably hasn't considered it until I mentioned it.

I know I can be casual and fun, I know not to have R talk unless initiated by him. My concern really I think is after its over. Am I going to feel like I’m back at square one? Am I going to be ok when he drops me at the door and then he leaves to go to his pace? Am I going to want more than he is going to want to give after. Will I be ok??? That is my concern, not worried about him.

Lonlee if you go that's the risk you take. As far as I can see you and WH are in an open M at this stage. I know that's not what you want but that's a fact. It's ok if it suits you and is part of your 180, but if it is be aware that WH may think that by going you are saying yes to an open M. In the long run you have chosen this site because it is proM and pro monogamy, so my assumption is that you want a full on monogamous M. Your strategy may be attracting your WH into an open M, and it is attracting your WH, I think at some point You will say WH, full on monogamy now.

You are M to this man, you are his W. But he wants his cake to eat and save. This is the decision you make. I think it's higher risk for you that you will be hurt. If you go be aware that for WH it isn't commitment. Know that before making your choice.

Be clear that if you choose to go and you end up hurt then it was your own choice and you take the consequences.

V