Need advice for a WW who left Part 2

[dwh15]

V, I can only name one current female fried of WW that she met on her own, and that friend is fully aware of the sitch, and has been all along. I have met her and she seems nice enough, but has a major drinking problem herself, so not sure how trustworthy her advice would be. All of her other "friends" are through current OM. The people that we both know are for the most part fully aware of her history, and not because I told them, but because either they witnessed it for themselves or she told them.

Now I did provide some details to my immediate family, but mostly about current OM. They don't know all the dirty details of all these other OM in her past, and I have no intention of revealing it. Won't help anyone, and just further degrades my W, and ruins my chance of ANY kind of R with her in the future, even a friendship. WW has had a couple of female friends really distance themselves since she actually moved out, and I believe it's because although they were aware of what was going on, they were hoping she would try to work on our M. When that didn't happen, I think they lost respect for her.

I think that part of the issue is, and I'm only speculating here, but WW likely spread all kinds of spew about how terrible her M and H were, trying to justify her actions. But then people end up meeting me and realize that none of it jives with what they've heard. They put 2 and 2 together, and lose respect for WW, and end up feeling bad for me. I know for a fact this happened in at least a couple of cases, as I actually spoke to them.

At this point, WW has surrounded herself with people in the social circle of OM. I know that some of them are aware of the sitch, but suspect a lot of them prob have no idea that she's still legally married, with kids who live with dad. If the news got out, my guess is that several of them would lose respect and distance themselves as well. WW has even basically cut contact with her own family, and rarely speaks to them. She has mentioned on multiple occasions how she feels as if she is an orphan. I really don't think there is a way to help her until she bottoms out and decides to change her life in a meaningful way.

I will likely be filing for D within a matter of weeks, assuming I don't get served first, and maybe that will be a part of the reality that knocks WW out of her fantasy. In the mean time, I'm working on being a great father, and lots of GAL.