Originally Posted By: kyrie
Talked a little last night, but it ended the same... he feels like he's being played & manipulated. I just don't see what I'm doing (now) that is causing that. He asked some good questions - I validated. I think because of his counselor background he knows what I'm doing with that and it just seems fake.

So I sent him an email this morning (I know, probably wrong to do):
Among other things it said this: "Now, I feel like I am finally growing into the woman I'm supposed to be! I know it must not seem familiar to you - you are used to a much different "Kyrie", of which I am ashamed. No more walking backwards." (that's a song reference which he would get).
He said I was talking at him, not to him.


It feels like you both want to spend so much time and energy analyzing and rehashing and reviewing every little detail of every little thing. But it's causing you both to go aqround in circles.

Can you take a night to go do something fun together so you can be in each other's company without needing to discuss your R? Go to a sporting event, go bowling, go to game night, go do SOMETHING, ANYTHING else besides focusing so hard on your R.