Few Questions From. Newbie

[tkdmme]

Eric,

I am in the same situation. One thing I can tell you is that if you continue to ask her to work on the marriage it will push her further away. I know this from my experience. I did the same things you are doing. I begged, and cried. I even threatened suicide. Like you I cant imagine living life as a part time dad. I feel like a failure. You are not in this alone. My wife has put up the same wall as yours and the only was to bring that wall down is by following the 37 rules.

I continued to try to fix it myself and the only results I got were bad. I would try to reason with her and she just stares at the floor and says nothing but "I want out". Luckily I found this site before she moved out. I have made mistakes since ive started following the rules but im getting better at it every day.

You are in the right place. The people here have all gone, or are going, through the same pain as you. I also lost weight and couldn't sleep. I had to get on medication to be able to sleep. I broke every rule habitually and found myself in a worse situation. Trust the program and read thos rules over and over.

Don't give up hope. its not over till its over. Start making the changes to yourself and do it now. I wasted a lot of time doing what does not work.

Also, MWD has videos on you tube. there is one titled the walkaway wife syndrome. watch it, it will help you understand your situation. Keep posting and reading the rules. Whatever you do don't keep pursuing her. Leave her alone. Its our only chance.

Look, im giving you this advise but Im not good at it yet either. It is the hardest thing ive ever tried to do. It never leaves my mind. but I am committed to following these rules. If you fall down just get back up and start again. We will get through this.

Hang in there. I know how hard it is.