have i been making mistaked too long. part 2

[tkdmme]

Thanks sandi,

I totally get what your saying and agree 100%. It is weird to want to know something that will hurt you even more than you are hurting now.

I still have no proof of an A and im pretty sure that she has not been unfaithful. I think maybe I want something to blame the situation on. Some kind of physical explanation.

None of this matters of course. I am going to keep following the rules.

She has been treating nice as long as I don't bring up our M. This seems to make me feel worse.

Detaching seems counterproductive for my Situation. One of the reasons that she gives for wanting a D is that I have been emotionally unavailable. It seems that detaching would only make things worse.

I am still committed to following the rules but can any of you explain why detaching works if that is one of the reasons she has made a decision to D.