I appreciate you seeing this from my side and acknowledging how painful it’s been for me to be without Woofie. It’s been over 4 months that I've been without him so I’m excited to see him this weekend.
You are also correct in us not seeing eye to eye on Woofie because this is an extremely emotional decision. We both LOVE him and ADORE him. I know you love and want to have him stay with you. I do too. I won’t deny that part of you.
However the process is mystifying to me as you appear to want to hold all the cards in making decisions around Woofie. How does that help our healing process and/or keep open the lines of communication? Decisions about Woofie should be made as a partnership, not a monopoly. To do otherwise dishonors the loving, fair, and respectful ways with which we’ve both conducted our entire relationship.
I still believe that the best option for all three of us is to split the time withshare custody of him and to come up with an equitable schedule together – with equal time with Woofie for each of us. [you don't want to say "split time" for that will be all W will latch onto and say it's not good idea to "split" Woofie. I know, I know. We do need to parse words with the WAS if you want a collaborative effort that will draw them to the table]
Woofie and I are going to have a blast this weekend, I've got a full day lined up for him! What is the best time to pick him up?
