The temptation to confront is strong. Bear in mind, however, that "confrontation", in itself, really does nothing more than alert the spouse that your radar is beeping. I think the LBS wants to hear an explanation, maybe even more. If it is anything that connects to another man, she's going to lie about it.
Even with solid proof in hand, some WW's will try to lie their way out of it. At best, the H gets an "I'm sorry". It will not stop her from continuing the A. She just carrys it deeper underground, so you won't catch her again.
Years ago, Starsky said something that stuck with me. I've observed threads over time and decided he is spot on. He said a WW will usually admit (if pressured) to a level below her true actions. For example, if she admits that OM only kissed her once, you can count on the fact there was much more.
Like I said, just confronting a WW has little value. It just tips her off to be more careful.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
