Dwh

A co parenting arrangement definitely. friendly certainly but friendship?

Frankly not your job, WW has created her own mess and bed, sacked you as her H.

Trying to resolve WW issues is her job, not yours. Talking on kids admin, yes but discussions on her mental health, trying to guide etc. Looks like control to me, maybe the best intentions and she is the mother of your children, but she has been living the single life for 5 years. Her choice and no longer your role to stop her from being lonely, WW has to discover there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Only she can fill the empty hole in her soul, not you or any OM or her children.

It shows that As burn out in a couple of years.

I am not surprise you snoop, you have been lied to multiple times but the truth always outs in the end.

In due course, a smart sassy, someone only a fool would leave guy, is going to want a new R. This will interfere with that somewhere. Crazy exes are no idea of fun, managed co parenting is different.

This is not your bag, let WW deal with this, getting involved can be an issue. It's lengthens the drama and it stops WW having to come to terms with herself. If she has disordered then the less involvement you haven hen the less damage to you and your boys. Arms length until recovery, NC other than kids looks good to me.

Time to let go and WW to live her dream, empty though it is. You can still stand for new M and for you. If WW ever resolves her issues and seeks new R, that is a decision for then. This is more than an addiction to an unsuitable OM, it is a path of behaviour that needs professional counselling. Not your job role any more. By attempting you delay the crash which isn't helpful to WW.

These are my thoughts and 2c.

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 08/14/15 10:00 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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