Need advice for a WW who left Part 2

[dwh15]

After thinking about it for a while, I'm tempted to ask my W to have a conversation tomorrow. Since I no longer wish to save the M, I do not wish to continue playing this NC game. I think the kids would be better served, and the 2 of us as well, if we could actually establish a working relationship, maybe even a casual friendship. I know that she often feels lonely, and I feel that I could perhaps be a positive influence in her life. I will need to set some firm boundaries, such as no asking for money or big favors. But primarily just someone to talk with. Yes, that maybe turns me into the gay boyfriend, but as I said, I see no future with us romantically at all. I think I would rather just have her open up and confess it all, try to forgive her, and move into a new relationship.

I also hope that would allow us to discuss the custody issues in a non-confrontational matter. I still plan on going after 100% custody of at least 2 of my boys, and a good percentage of my youngest. I plan on being firm, and if she chooses to fight me in court, then we will have to have that battle. But I'm hoping that we can resolve everything in an adult manner. Amazingly, I feel somewhat sorry for my W. I really feel that she has major issues and needs therapy. I hope that somehow I can lead her in that direction, and help in whatever way I might, to make her a better mother. It's amazing how liberating it feels to know that my decision is made. It has been a very hard road the past few months, but I am confident that God has a plan for me, and it will all work out in the end.