I am sorry you are feeling done, it's understandable. Know there is no sense to MLC, you will drive yourself crazy trying to understand his behavior. Trust me, I almost did! A consistent description I have seen on here is that one day our spouse wakes up and it is like an alien took them over. Lifeless shark eyes, rewriting history, a complete stranger. My H told me on BD that he had been unhappy for 10 years, we had been married for 9. Lol, it's senseless gibberish right now, please know that this is NOT about you.
Something that helped me and still does very much, is to accept this is a mental illness. Nobody in their right mind turns their back on their wife and daughter, right? He is not in his normal balanced state of mind right now. He has issues to work through and needs his space and time to do it.
As far as going to a restaurant where you celebrated anniversaries..... H and I have a place we always celebrate special things, anniversaries, birthdays, it's a local favorite for us. 6 months after Bday, I asked to go somewhere to talk about what we should do and he suggested this place. I thought to myself, this must be good, right? He wouldn't want to go to our special place to beat me down. Wrong! He did all the ILYBINILWY crap and even suggested D as the best answer. I couldn't believe it. I don't know if I will ever forgive him for that! However, we have been back a few times for family dinners and good times.
I guess what I am saying is, they are not in their right mind! They are not thinking straight and seems special places and memories have even been pushed aside and forgotten right now. I have been told this is very common.
Dig deep and put your focus on regaining balance and peace for you and your daughter. Trust me, you are stronger than you think. It is very difficult, just take one hour at a time, then one day and so on.
We are here for you
Thank you I really needed that. That would have hurt me so much to have been done like that. I am sorry he did that.
