I think some 180's would be helpful to help me see I can change and show him I really am trying to be a better person.
4, for crying out loud, leave him alone and let him go. Quit trying to show him how you can change. It's done. You don't believe that because he fights with you passionately, and then you go through great lengths to keep your cat's claws in him by using your daughter to give you excuses to pick fights.
Are these shenanigans doing a good job distracting you from you? Are you really so terrified with the idea of being with yourself that you are willing to settle for this crap?
Well guess what? Even if you are ok with this, it's not going to last. He is going to kick you out or leave. So you can cling to a piece of crap relationship and resist change while going to fight after fight until he finally leaves physically (he's mentally gone), or you can let him go and work on yourself.
The fights won't stop as long as you're trying to salvage this relationship. It's time to have a moment of silence for the loss, then look in the mirror and figure out what's so horrible about being alone. That is the only question that matters, and you're running from it as fast as you can.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
