You are right. I have been thinking about it in the sense of getting a peace of mind. I am working on detaching and understand that it is a long process but ultimately it will be best for me.
Last night I was sitting in bed pondering if my best approach is to ask her to leave the house being that she is the one that wants out of the M. During our M, I took a more supportive role (nothing wrong with that) but it seems she expects this to continue even though she wants to leave and look for greener pastures. As much as I love my wife I keep referring back to this line on a post that Ghost56 re-posted called "The star is inside of YOU":
"Are you afraid to tell your spouse to stop texing OM/OW in front of you? Why? YOU matter! You are worthy of LOVE and RESPECT too. YOUR feelings do matter."
This resonates with me, but of course I don't want to create turmoil right now, this is the FEAR that he mentions in the same post.
I will continue to work with my current sitch, detaching, hoping for the best, GALing and working on myself. Church is definitely in the future for me, I have had this urge to go back and settle into it.
Thank You for the support and your time in responding.
M: 34 W: 33 S: 7 S: 14 months BD: 6/2015 Separation: 6/2015 Back and Forth between Home and Moms
