A couple suggestions on not letting the anger drive you. Remember that it is part of the process that R history is re-written and that a certain amount of anger is thrown at you. An angry reaction from you will (1) confirm their judgment; (2) harden their view on whatever it is that you disagree w/ them on; (3) lead to escalation; & (4) which makes neither of you happy or help you get what you want.

Next time you get angry, go look at yourself in the mirror. Does this person look attractive to you? Do you really want to be this person?

Don't repress the anger, just recognize that you need to hold a space for it until W is no longer in your presence before you can look at it, feel it, etc. It's like setting it in a comfy little baby carrier while you focus on listening and validating. It is the best thing to get her to start calming over time and moving you to the stage where you may actually get to talk about & challenge her perception/view.

Since you are meditating, you might sit w/ your anger when you are feeling it & have the chance. Don't judge it, just look at physical sensations, emotional feeling, and what underlies/triggers that (e.g., beliefs about the way the world/others should be). Helps to reduce the propensity to be triggered over time.

Good luck.


Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15