How about this Wonka? I see all of your points from above, I write what I think and still believe that's where the issue lies. Even though what I'm putting down on here has gone through the "don't say that filter" about 20 times beforehand.

"Hi W,

I appreciate you seeing this from my side and acknowledging how painful it’s been for me to be without Woofie. It’s been over 4 months that I've been without him so I’m excited to see him this weekend.

You are also correct in us not seeing eye to eye on Woofie because this is an extremely emotional decision. We both LOVE him and ADORE him. I know you love and want to have him stay with you. I do too. I won’t deny that part of you.

However the process is mystifying to me as you appear to want to hold all the cards in making decisions around Woofie. How does that help our healing process and/or keep open the lines of communication? Decisions about Woofie should be made as a partnership, not a monopoly. To do otherwise dishonors the loving, fair, and respectful ways with which we’ve both conducted our entire relationship.

I still believe that the best option for all three of us is to split the time with him and to come up with an equitable schedule together – with equal time with Woofie for each of us.

Woofie and I are going to have a blast this weekend, I've got a full day lined up for him! What is the best time to pick him up?

Thanks,
PP

M 39 W 36
T5 M3
BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day
Served 9/15
D finalized 6/17