Thanks Sandi! Big boost for me. You weren't blunt at all, in fact I needed that bit of reality. Sure, I want to make it work, 20 years of marriage is a long time, but I know it will be a lot of work if a reconciliation is to take place. Work for me too, I need a lot as well.
And yes, I think letting go of the emotional rope might just be what I have to do. Getting there.
Devouring every thread I can! Lots of great info!
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA