I have been thinking of completely moving out to my mom's house, and then finally to my own apartment while I detach. Is this a good idea?
I have been good in following Sandie's 37 as of recent. I don't ask questions, I don't pursue, don't call/text, etc. I just can't handle the disrespect at home, especially in front of the kids.
She is trying to be friendly (I am her only support where we live), but this too sometimes throws me off my footing. When she is away on business, I feel good, in control of my emotions, so I am hoping that doing the same by leaving the home would be good for me. I love her, but I also love myself.
I am still hopeful that we can one day build a new marriage, but for now, I continue with what has been helping me. Reading Sandie's 37 every morning, as well as RobX detaching, meditating, exercising. I have been working on my GAL plan, have done some surfing, will be taking sailing lessons soon. etc.
I truly appreciate the support.
Why are you going to move so she can bring the OM in your home? Also that doesn't look good in court when she is asking for alimony etc.
The husband left the marital home and the kids so give me all his money... and no visitation rights.. Is that what you want?
DO NOT LEAVE THE HOME.
As far as texting goes, there is nothing you can do about that, it might not even be him, you don't know whom she's texting. So drop the rope.. Let her be.
I can tell you I too was living with my spouse like that for months. Very weird and awkward until she finally moved out. We both got some needed space.
Things will turn around, go to church like you have been wanting to go, turn your wife over to GOD and live your life, do new things, new activities, meet new people, be friendly and helpful. Love always wins my friend!
