He's not likely to think he's lost everything since he already has another woman. Just another reason to completely let go. My head knows that God has a plan. My heart hasn't caught up yet.
Becky, just caught up on your sitch .. my heart goes out to you.
The A is not built on what your M was, 2 broken people jumping ship into a row boat with the rose-colored glasses on thinking it will all be just fine ... it will run its course, unfortunately for you things are moving very fast which pushes you to go LRT. Reading your sitch your H is hurting ... he is looking to escape that by any means he can.
He very well might need the D papers in hand before he realizes that he is no closer to happiness than when he started this mess. My W was in the same boat ... but realized just in time what she really wanted.
For now, all you can do is work on you. The healing for you can start now, you are lucky in that regard. If you do believe God has a plan, give this to him and trust there are lessons to be learned for you both with all this. It was hard for me but when I did that it was like I came up for air and could breathe again.
