At this point, when things are the way they are (me trying to 180 from being controlling, and meeting his needs, etc.), I'm still confused about things. DB seems to say I shouldn't "pursue" or even try to meet those needs. Yet that's what he's looking for - his wife to meet his needs and not control/fight for power. I'm also still torn about ML...

Sorry I'm SO dense.

Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?