Hi Pink, I have been reading information on the Hearts Blessing website. She has a range of articles about MLC, and Q&As too. I thought of your H when I read this. It is from her article - Returning back: the first awakening:

To “awaken” means to go from sleep to gradual awareness. This first “awakening” that comes during the latter half of the Replay stage, has been compared to the story of “Rip Van Winkle”, who slept for 20 years, and awoke to find everything had changed. When a mid-life spouse awakens, they find much the same aspect, (everything has changed, or is changing) except their awakening occurs in gradual steps.

1. They awaken to the reality/truth of the situation as it’s become

2. They awaken to the reality/truth what they have done/are doing

3. They awaken to the fact that if they do not do something, all will be lost.

Their awakening, regardless of how it comes about, is usually triggered as a result of a loss (real or imagined) perceived as coming, or is about to happen. This leads to a greater awareness within them, and various changes begin to occur as a result.

It is possible that finalising the D and the loss associated with this may have caused an awakening within your H. Of course I'm no expert, but there is something of a change here. I would encourage you to read the article and see what you think.

From your perspective, I would just keep things light, pleasant and supportive and not change your path for now. As you say, there is work you want to do on you.....

Keep on DBing Pink!!! xxx


Last edited by Sotto; 08/13/15 04:31 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus