There really are no right or wrong answers here, simply what works and doesn't.
I want to tell you that whatever you feel is ok. They are your feelings. Some will serve you better than others throughout this process and like the ocean, they will ebb and flow.
I am going to suggest two books to you to read.
One may seem really out there, don't let the title scare you, and it may be really difficult to process.
I am suggesting it because of your H's feelings about male/female roles. And because personally, I believe it is a very important concept.
Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. The local library should have it or be able to get it for you.
The other is His Needs Her Needs. Excellent read and it shows us how different men and women really are on an emotional and psychological level.
Read them please. You are facing some of the issues that they cover.
And follow Drew's advice.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
