Here's my completely unsolicited opinion. Asking about this will lead her to feel like you think she isn't capable of taking care of them. You could maybe ask if you can help pay for their stuff. Or Iyou could take your kids to get some new clothes when you have them. But that's just my opinion.
Originally Posted By: fdu
Is there a link or book that explains what she is going through so I can understand the stages people go through as a WAW?
Read Sandi's threads of advice for the LBH. Repeatedly.
Originally Posted By: fdu
patience, patience, more patience. when does the pain go away or when do I become numb to the hurt?
It goes away, but it doesn't go away by itself. At least not for a long time. It goes away when you find that YOU can be HAPPY with or WITHOUT your wife. And the keys to that are PMA, gal, and Detachment. The thoughts and feelings persist, but they don't really hurt anymore.
