Thanks all for the insight. If she is hurting then why doesn't she stop her destructive behaviors?
Yes compassion but you have to admit it hard to have compassion for someone who is behaving badly.
It feels like she is 16 again and I have turned into her Mother. How did that happen?? All I know is that my w had a very tumultuous relationship with her mom from 15-17 roughly. It's the "you can't tell me what to do" and "you don't get to call the shots any more" verbiage I hear. Wth?
So, compassion, I will try that on, and thanks for the breathing tips. That is helpful too when the adrenaline is dumped into my system.
