7 weeks in feels like a lifetime.

[Lynn80]

Great things happening. Looking for some celebration and help staying patient

One week ago the husband moved out and what I thought was a step away has become amazing. He can now ask for some space to process and when he is at the house he is happy, loving and engaged. Since giving him this space, he has started to talk about what went wrong and looking to understand why, he has started talking about a future together and tonight he recommend my son and I move in with him in his duplex rental. He has also said that he is not willing to give up his wife and child for the EA. All this in one week!

The reason I need some patience is the EA is still texting and tonight she called. I had a weak moment and turned the phone on while I angrily asked if he was going to talk to her. He hung up on her and was mad. We had a good talk and worked through our hurt/frustration. He has asked for time because feelings don't disappear over night and he wants to make sure I don't get angry/pursuant again.

We have better success when I am patient and do not draw lines. When I make demands he pulls away. I continue saying "we can not heal while she is in the picture. I want all communication to stop." He keeps saying it isn't about her but and he and I. Ugh. So hard not to react in the moment. He is most definitely coming back, opening up, and rebuilding our relationship. Wish I had a magic wand to make her disappear.