When I first read about your "backslide" update, my first reaction was:
Cali, Cali....NOT even 2 days at the new job, you hafta jump on W with your antsy monkeys. Jeez.
Then I read what Toots (now Sotto) wrote....yeah, she spoke for all of us here. WTH were you thinking? You did not allow W time to get acclimated to her new job and get her schedule set. Nope...you just had to act on your insecurities and scream from the "hurt little boy" voice that she WAS not putting you and S as the #1 priority.
I do not think it was fair to ambush W like that when she got home from the job she's only been at 2 days....TWO DAYS. Not even "how was your day" greeting as a supportive husband. I'd be really irritated and annoyed if it were me walking through the front door at a new job, a new environment, a new set of colleagues, new boss, etc.
I remember when I started my new job...my head spun for 2 weeks because I was crammed with tons of information and learning the A,B,Cs of who's who in the company so I don't step on hidden landmines at the company.
Seriously, you're going have to order some patience shovels from Job's factory. Preferably plated in rust-free chrome.
Originally Posted By: CaliGuy
its more about where I feel I am in all this... again fighting that feeling of being the back up and not choice #1.
It is your chit to own and process. Your W has her chit and process. From where I sit, it wasn't about the OM, the marriage, or W...it was all about past memories of the "hurt little boy" and like the Inside/Out movie...he threw one whopper of a tantrum at W.
All for what? So you can soothe that insecure 'hurt little boy'. Got everyone all upset. Imagine if you had said, "W, you just got in the right time...dinner is ready. Would love to hear about your day."
It's time for you to write PATIENCE 100 times on the chalkboard, buddy.
