MLC SEPERATED AND NO CHANGE PART 3

[asitis]

He told me the other day when he said he wanted D that I hadn't included him in on anything which was not true because I had asked him to go to the lake with us and on several occasions asked him to eat dinner and he said no. I reminded him of this and of course he just said it wasn't true. It just baffles me how he can say that when it is a blatant lie. I know MLC but I am just spewing my feelings right night. I wanted to reach over and shake him. Just saying.

I wouldn't include him in much until you can detach yourself & get your GAL activities ramped up. And, don't you dare try to apologize or defend yourself when he pulls that moping little boy 'you don't include me anymore' crap. You really can throw a truth dart at him for that. Just give him a look of utter disbelief & say 'Really!?!' If he can't figure that out, a quick "You're divorcing me & you want me to include you in activities? That was a rhetorical question by the way."

If he really presses, just say "for right now I need my space away from you. I'm glad you want to be involved w/ your S, so let's talk about us sharing parenting duties more equitably so that you get some time w/ S & I get some time for myself?"

And on the asking him to take S, absolutely. But don't forget you need to get him on a schedule as co-parent so that it is just settled & you don't need to initiate contact.