I'm aware that there are other perfectly legitimate reasons for her to be taking BC pills, but the fact that she didn't mention it to me at all, and when I did ask, she gave me a bogus answer, is really troubling.
What this boils down to is that she needs to cut him loose for good and truly recommit to working with me if she wants our marriage to work. The therapist even told her that point blank last session.
I'm also thinking about putting MC on hold until that time, assuming that time ever comes. Thoughts?
By the way jim, I noticed that you got your BD about 2 days before I did last year.
Almost feel like you are in denial at times, I get you want to defend your W ... but all the signs are still there ... heck .. they are flashing like its Vegas
As far as MC, yeah ... I went through that May14, OM was still in the picture and I had no clue, thought W was still on the fence but our MC was pro-M so I thought all things would lead towards us getting things on track. Nope ... W was there just as her "I Tried" quota all while seeing OM on the sly, MC actually figured this out and point blank asked her. Then ... I will never forget this... she said "In all my years counseling couples I have never been successful in helping a 3 headed marriage" looked me in the eye and said "Till there are only 2 of you I can not help either of you" ... the Non verbal message was sent and received loud and clear. Just took me time to become man enough to drop the rope that I was clinging on so tightly to.
