Requesting any and all 2x4s. Or a different point of view. I want to call him. Ask him if this is what he really wants.
We've had nothing but NC since that day in the cafe. I got some nasty texts back when I demanded he come get his things. When I texted to ask him why he wasn't signing all those weeks, "what do you care, it's just paperwork..." And then him telling the paralegal and my bestie that this is what I wanted/he was forced into filing.
I want to hope things could be different.
That this wasn't all what it looked like. Maybe I've exaggerated his actions and words and it was reactive to me, not abuse?
I want to believe that three months of counseling could make a difference, if he meant what he said. I don't know how he would have gotten there...that he was kicked out, that he didn't want this D...but maybe I could meet him there as a starting point, who cares who is right/wrong?
What if this is all a huge mistake?
The thing he told me about no intention of fidelity, the posts where he basically admitted cheating, he likely has a GF now...I used to think I would never be able to get past it but Idk.
It's not like he is all about a family...
No, it would make no rational sense to try to 'rescue' him through a phone call, I already sent a letter asking if he meant what he'd been saying...and that was dismissed.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
