First up the birth control thing. It is possible that those specific pills have another affect and are there for being prescribed - all sorts of drugs have multiple affects, for example Viagra was invented for a whole other purpose and I think also treats altitude sickness. There might be a legit explanation (though TBH I doubt it and I would have thought it would be volunteered at the outset)
BUT.....
Your last paragraph nails it so read it back a couple of times.
And I've seen you advised a few times now. Actions speak louder than words and when your being totally disrespected and your boundaries ignored no verbal protest or discussion is going to change it.
BTW moving out doesn't close a door between you and your W, but it does make it d@mn clear that she needs to shut and bolt, plaster over and hang a family portrait in front of that one to OM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
