I was and still am so destroyed by her doing that. If I did one thing it was always be attentive to my girls when I had them. I rarely went on my phone like many parents (especially dads) do.
I have asked friends who have seem me at preschool and other places to write me something on my behalf as to mental state or if i seemed stressed with the girls, just so i can have them as a counter at the mediation. unfortunately that will make my W all the more angry that i asked other people about things.
This is the type of thing where character witnesses come in and play a role? if it goes to court?
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after thinking for a while I can always go nuclear.
If i let go of the house like she wants I could propose an 80/20 in my favor, being that i was the primary caregiver. Then we would inevitably go to court and it would take a long time and cost a lot and in the end it would probably still be 50/50. i could just move back in with my parents and live off child and spousal support. then i could raise the girls entirely and not have to work (though i'd like to) and fix up my parents house in the meantime.
in CC my wife was asked for something positive she admired or was different about me. she struggled and then came up with the idea that in a crisis situation i can somehow stay calm and focused and not be worried - that i can see options and focus down. she used a backpacking trip when forest fires started burning nearby and we had to make it out of Big Pine canyon.
and even though i never want to, i can cut away huge pieces of my life to fit through narrow doorways.
M36,W34 T18 years M9 years D3,D6 W "doesn't want to be married anymore"6/14/15 ILYBNILWY6/2015 W moves to parents house 6/30/15 W removes wedding band 7/3/15 My ring back on 8/8/15 Served 8/11/2015.
