She was zonked out on painkillers last night after a minor surgical procedure, so no point in confronting her. We'll have a big talk tonight.
NH ... just observing your sitch from afar ... question.
Do you have the need for the big talk, the final confrontation? As others have chimed in, typically DB does not promote the LBS leaving the house .. but in this case, along with my opinions on the WW and the LBH ... and its obvious in this case to me with the latest revelations it all boils down to RESPECT .. which she has ZERO for you right now.
I would not wait around, I would not make the grand speech nor the dramatic exit. I would simply pack my chit and go. OM back in 2 weeks and you discover your W has BC pills.... ummm no sorry , not in my camp. I'm guessing another sexy outfit .. ya know for her 'confidence' Compounded with her 'need' for 'closure' to see him .. oh but they just accidentally kissed over a counter but that's all .... really? No thanks, why stay on this carousel? you already know the direction and speed of it ... time to hop off.
IMHO you need to draw a very hardcore line and hold your ground here. Your W is fat with the cake you have been serving like BigMacs at Mickey-D's none of her ACTIONS show she is focused on the M ... this will continue until you drop the rope.
Believe none of what they say and 50% of what they do ... and 50% of what she is doing is still 100% an affair my friend
