My husband has been late every night for the past month or so. He always loved going out and drinking, but it has been really bad. When I talked to him, he said he is sorry and he will slow down, which hasn't happened. Well yesterday, he was gone all night and did not come home until 12PM next day. When I confronted him, he told me he met someone a few weeks ago and he has been hanging out with her. He claimed they are not intimate (yet) but he does like her. The reason he was late every day was because he felt guilty and was avoiding me. He said he is really sorry and he loves me, loves our kids (still toddlers), and loves our house. He doesn't want to leave or he doesn't want me to leave. Yet he is not sure if he will stop seeing her....He feels like he is living a double life and he can't stand it, he can't do things with me or be affectionate with me. He also did say that even not with this person, he feels like he will mess up again and hurt me in the future. He wants me to be happy and he feels like he can't make that happen. As much as it hurts and shocking, I want our marriage/family on track. I don't just want to give up for the person he only knows for a month. But his unwillingness to end this affair or work with me makes me at a loss. What should I do? Should I just continue being pleasant for the little time we see each other like Michelle's book suggests? (He came home at 5am today too) He might be infatuated right now it just started, but should I wait for him to come to his senses? Would that make situation worse now that he feels somewhat relieved for confessing to me? How long before I have to tell him he has to leave, not see kids, unless this stops?
