Just saw this on another thread. (Can't recall which )
Writing a letter to W to get it out of my system:
Dear W,
When all of this first started, I told you I did not want to be "just friends". That hasn't changed. You have expressed interest in working on our marriage to some degree, but we continue to work on a marriage with three people in it. I understand that you have many things to work out and there are things that you feel you need to see from me in order to start working on our marriage. I remain sorry for my part in creating this mess.
That said, I can no longer tolerate being your second choice. It is too painful for me. I thank you for not taking me up on some of my insane offers when you first left. From here on out, I can't have you in my life so long as the OM is in your life. If you find yourself in a position where you truly want to work on things with me, I am open to discuss it. Thank for all the good years and I wish you luck on your journey.
Sincerely, H
M: 38 W: 37 T: 20 M: 19 Kids: Stepson?20, S19, S16, D12 BD: 02/19/2015 (She moved out) PA Confirmed: 02/22/2015 (She is now living with OM) Dazed and confused: 09/13/2015
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