have i been making mistaked too long. part 2

[tkdmme]

I realize that it will hurt when and if she does move out but I was getting myself prepared for it and then it hasn't happened. Just like everything else in the situation, it is confusing. I had myself mentally prepared and started thinking that her moving out would help me detach. Now she is still here. I am getting better at detach but I have a long way to go.

As I said earlier, I have only been using LRT for 10 days now and I haven't slipped yet. This is a big achievement for me. I am committed to these changes and feel stronger today than I did yesterday. Yesterday was rough and i was feeling sad and angry. I was able to calm myself (with the help of this forum) before I got home. I have read the rules probably 10 time by now and they are finally sinking in.

As ive mentioned in earlier posts, my wife works for her brother. he is a doctor and his office is having their annual picnic this coming Saturday. I know that he will expect me to be there and my kids want me to go. I think im going to set this one out.

My BIL has been extremely supportive of me through this thing but he doesn't know about DBing. He has never been through this himself. Although he has given me some great advise, he has also given me some advise contrary to what im learning here. It is the same as in the DR where she talks about well meaning friends and family.

I don't think anyone she works with is familiar with out situation but they have to have noticed her sudden change of attitude. Her brother told me that her work has been suffering and that other employees have been complaining that she is not doing her job well and being insubordinate. She is the owners baby sister and im sure it would take a lot for a co-worker to complain about her to her brother.

Anyway, Im doing pretty good today.