Emotional Affair Ended? Next step...

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Sorry you are here Jay. I have to say I agree with Cali. In my case, I discovered an EA and my H panicked and ended things straight away with OW. I had a big shock at the time that my H 'almost' had an A, and thought we were recovering from that.

Unbeknown to me, he and OW reconnected after a couple of weeks and a PA developed (it may have already been a PA before, but I'm basing this on what my H told me.) I wasn't posting on the forum at that time - but the 'danger signs' were there. He changed his passcode on the phone and was protective of it. There were times he was MIA in the evenings when working away - but there was always an excuse you know? And he was angry at me for 'snooping' and kept saying - we've come a long way (since the EA) why do we have to keep going back to this?

OW moved abroad, some time during this period and three months later, he rang me one night to say he was going to visit her. Then he emailed me to confirm the PA and we S. Later we talked about what had happened and why he got drawn back in. He said OW was initially angry, and then she cooled down and asked to see him. She told him there was an obvious attraction there and she wanted them to pursue it. He said yes. He told me that Pandora's box had been opened and there had been no going back.

I just want you to be aware that once the line has been crossed, it becomes so addictive. I hope my story has been helpful, and it will encourage you to take a strong stance in respect of your W and her contact with another guy. Based on my experience on the forum, she is unlikely to 'do the right thing' here. Likely, things will get worse and it will all take a good while to play out.

Take care xx