Hanging in there

[HurtHus]

So sorry to read this. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now.

Asitis hit on something though. It doesn't sound like your H is ready to work on things. Maybe by stepping back and recommitting to the DB process would be great for you. Recently W and I had a mini-blow up (I should have handled things differently), but by simply lovingly detaching and validating her emotions we seem to be back on track. I hope that's all it will take for you, but I think H still needs to work through his own nightmare before he can come to the table to work on the M.