Wife says "NO" and acting like I have no rights

[Zues126]

Thank You CaliGuy, Beagrey, and Shuley.

You all make sense and I see it and sort of get it. The problem with me is that I for some reason make a positive effort and then take 10 giant steps back.

This kind of Love really hurts. I tell myself, oh you can move forward and do this, but when I see things at the store like the Pediasure Milk always I buy for my boys, or hear the kids behind my house playing sports as my kids did here it hurts so bad.

I'm going to have to start at step 1 again as suggested.

Love hurts.

Please Dear God, if it your will, make my family whole and one again. In Jesus' name I pray.

Two things I found myself shouting at my computer:

1. If you are going to pray, pray to be appreciative for what God has given you, and pray to have the strength that HIS will be done, not yours. Your own will got you here. God's will won't necessarily grant you the family back you want, but it will give you much greater rewards than you can imagine. BELIEVE THIS- If you can't be appreciate with what God has given you, one woman won't change that.

2. You're on a roller coaster. One second giving up, one second desperately praying, one second trying to be the nice guy, one second getting upset. You are talking like she's crazy, but you're being equally crazy here. I get it, it's understandable to be terrified right now, but settle down. Enough with the all or nothing extremes.

Chill a bit. Now's not a good time to make life changing decisions. You're in no spot to "give up", and you're in no spot to take action that you think will help because you've been doing so many things backwards.

Now's a good time to stop talking to her, her friends, and watching what you say around the kids. Be cheerful and stupid. Breathe. Post. Read. Pray. And let a few weeks tick by. On the cosmic clock that is NOTHING. It's the equivalent to counting to 10 when you're upset. And you're clearly upset. So relax and acclimate to your new reality before you make knee jerk reactions that will impact your family.

Hang in there.