Help for LBH who has a WW (new thread)

[asitis]

I just wish I knew how to become like a WAH w/ 2 kids wo/ hurting the kids. It doesn't help that I was very numb to her for a while, but my damn meditation practice got me to see that this was really just a defensive wall & that I still loved her. Made me more patient, but much harder to go the WA route.

I definitely need to lower the contact, as I've gotten a bit sloppy lately, partly because W & I go back to work in a couple weeks & all the kid back to school stuff. Also, have responded to her seeming thaw more than is probably good.

Maybe Cadet can hold a class on solving the how to become the WAH wo/ abandoning your values and commitments. I know, just detach & GAL. But, I just don't see myself getting to DB black belt status of becoming WAH.