You are to much in her head and not into your own ... know what I mean?
Your actions, what you do and do not do .. should be about you and only you. They should not be lived according to what your W wnats/does not want .. says/does not say. Its not GAL as long as W approves ... its GAL for YOU .. you have to detach. She is seeing you do this and called you out on it crying "why did'nt you do this with me" ... the DB generic reply is "I would do alot of things differently" and thats it ... no pursuit or COme back to me so I can prove it .... she has to learn your changes are for you and not as a trick to win her back .... you have to learn this same thing and live it.
The tough love thing .. yeah .. that's about getting your self esteem back and the WW learning to respect you as a man again .. its critical
