Luke, I so enjoy reading your posts. You do have a wonderful way with words.
She is very tentative..thats normal. She knows what you have to overcome and she knows that she almost lost you. That coupled with her trying to figure out who she is and what she wants..makes for a lot of insecure feelings on her part. Reassure her as best you can, but, the rest she has to do.
I love that rule about dinner. We had the same rule. It is so important to have that connection together as a family.