The signs of being a WW are there. Self centered and not herself at all... I have my guard up but seriously have nothing other than that to go off of. If I do find out there is OM I will be going from DBing to DMovingon!
Only you can decide what you want to do if you find out about an OM. But just to let you know, I used to say all the same things before BD. I would kick her to the curb, no looking back, etc. The sad reality was much different. I turned into a sobbing mess, as have many other guys who went through it. I don't think you know for sure until you face it. I hope that's not the case for your sake. Because it's not pretty.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.